5 Things You Should Never Say or Do to a Little Person
Learn respectful ways to interact with little people, avoiding common pitfalls that cause offense or discomfort in everyday encounters.
Little people, individuals with dwarfism defined as a medical or genetic condition resulting in adult heights of 4’10” or shorter, navigate a world often designed for average heights. Everyday interactions can unintentionally cause harm through thoughtless words or actions. This guide outlines five critical things to avoid, drawing from advocacy perspectives, to promote respectful engagement. Understanding these sensitivities builds empathy and inclusivity.
1. Don’t Use Offensive Terminology Like the ‘M’ Word
The term “midget” is widely regarded as derogatory, originating from references to small insects or mythical figures, reducing people to objects rather than recognizing their humanity. Preferred terms include “little person,” “person with dwarfism,” or simply their name, as endorsed by organizations like Little People of America (LPA). Using slurs perpetuates stereotypes and discomfort, even if unintended.
Instead, ask politely: “What term do you prefer?” This respects individual choice and opens a dialogue. For instance, some embrace “dwarf,” but “midget” is never acceptable. In professional or casual settings, default to names—treat them as you would anyone else.
- Avoid: Midget, goblin, short stuff, Lilliputian.
- Use: Little person, person of short stature, or first name.
- Why it matters: Offensive labels dehumanize and evoke painful histories of exploitation.
Personal accounts highlight repeated encounters with such terms from unaware individuals, underscoring the need for education.
2. Never Ask Invasive Personal or Medical Questions
Phrases like “What’s wrong with you?” or “What kind of dwarfism do you have?” intrude on privacy, implying something is defective rather than viewing short stature as a natural variation. Dwarfism encompasses over 200 conditions, but probing medical details without context is rude and ableist.
Little people report these queries as constant, shifting focus from their personality or achievements to their height. In workplaces or social settings, this underestimates abilities, assuming limitations based on stature alone.
Opt for neutral conversation starters: “How’s your day going?” or inquire about interests first. If curiosity persists, frame it respectfully: “I’m interested in learning more about dwarfism for educational reasons—would you be open to sharing?”
| Offensive Question | Why Avoid | Better Alternative |
|---|---|---|
| What’s wrong with you? | Implies defect; nothing is ‘wrong.’ | Nothing—focus on shared topics. |
| What kind do you have? | Personal medical info. | Ask about hobbies or work. |
| Do your kids have it too? | Assumes abnormality in family. | How old are your children? |
3. Avoid Patronizing Comments or ‘Inspiration Porn’
Saying “You’re so brave” or “Good things come in small packages” places little people on a pedestal, framing their existence as inspirational merely for being short—a form of ableism known as inspiration porn. It ignores that they’ve always lived this way and excel in talents like anyone else.
These remarks condescend, overlooking individual skills in sports, careers, or arts. Dwarf athletes, for example, compete at high levels, deserving recognition for achievements, not stature.
Instead, compliment specifics: “That’s impressive how you handled that project!” or “I admire your athletic skills.” This humanizes and equals the interaction.
- Examples to skip: “How’s the weather down there?” (reduces to height joke).
- “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle” (implies burden; biblically misused).
4. Do Not Touch, Pat, or Pick Up Without Permission
Patting heads or attempting to lift little people treats them like children or objects, which is patronizing and potentially assaultive. Their bodies may have unique vulnerabilities, like joint issues in achondroplasia, making such actions risky.
Adults with dwarfism describe the humiliation of being head-patted in public, reinforcing childlike perceptions. Consent is universal—extend it here.
Treat as equals: Offer a handshake at their level or assist only if asked, like reaching high shelves. In accessible environments, many manage independently.
Daily challenges include unreachable items, but climbing or adaptive tools empower autonomy over unwanted help.
5. Steer Clear of References to Exploitation or Stereotypes
Asking “Have you ever been thrown?” alludes to dwarf tossing, a dangerous, exploitative practice banned in some states, underpaying participants without safety nets. It evokes dehumanizing entertainment histories.
Presume heteronormative or height-based pairings, like questioning spouses’ dwarfism types, dehumanizes relationships. Height isn’t a primary partner factor.
Redirect to positives: “What sports do you enjoy?” Highlight dwarf athletic organizations. Celebrate full lives—many parents of little people lead fulfilling family lives.
Understanding Dwarfism Basics
Dwarfism typically results in heights under 4’10”, with most enjoying normal intelligence, lifespans, and health. Conditions vary; achondroplasia is common. LPA advocates against eugenics, emphasizing productive lives. Accessibility matters: workplaces succeed with adjustments, not pity.
Social stares and whispers persist, but ignoring them builds resilience. Education combats this—LPA resources guide parents and teachers.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What is the preferred term for someone with dwarfism?
Terms like “little person,” “dwarf,” or “person of short stature” are acceptable; use their name. Avoid “midget.”
Is dwarfism a disability?
It varies by condition; many lead independent lives, but some face mobility challenges.
Can little people participate in sports?
Yes, organizations like Dwarf Athletic Association support competitions.
Are car airbags safe for little people?
Consult specialists; some modifications may be needed.
How can average-height parents have a child with dwarfism?
Dwarfism can arise from genetic mutations even in average-height families.
Building Inclusive Interactions
Respect starts with seeing little people as multifaceted individuals. Avoid height fixation; engage on shared human levels. If you’ve erred before, learning now matters. Resources from LPA empower better encounters.
Workplaces benefit from accessibility, proving competence transcends height. Public etiquette reduces stares’ impact, fostering normalcy.
By sidestepping these pitfalls, interactions become genuine, reducing ableism and enhancing mutual respect.
References
- First Blog Post: Top 10 Things Not to Say to a Person with Dwarfism — KSG Info. Accessed 2026. https://ksginfo.org/first-blog-post-top-10-things-not-to-say-to-a-person-with-dwarfism-2/
- The Ups and Downs of Being a Little Person — VICE. 2015. https://www.vice.com/en/article/the-ups-and-downs-of-being-a-little-person-876/
- 5 Things You Should Never Say to a Little Person — Fox News. Accessed 2026. https://www.foxnews.com/health/5-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-little-person
- FAQ – Little People of America — Little People of America (LPA). Accessed 2026. https://www.lpaonline.org/faq-
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